Leather Spinsters Newsletter April 2002 Edition

Leather Spinsters Newsletter April 2002 Edition


Inside this Newsletter

1. Articles

    A. Reader Appreciation Note
    B. Can Feminism Handle The Word I?
2. Spinsters Letters

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Reader Appreciation Note

I would like to take this time and extend a warm thank you to the readers of The Leather Spinsters Newsletter on behalf of this publication. Due to your top quality support top quality advertisers such as North Point Living Communities (listed above) are discovering single women as a viable demographic worth respecting and pursuing.

I can recall a time inwhich large companies frowned on the idea of supporting single women but thanks to more single women demanding they be acknowledged corporate attitudes are changing. Who are those demanding women? Women like YOU.

When companies can see the value in a particular segment they're more willing to not just support the publications but the events given by such publications. Things are really looking up, there are plans for more free Single Women & Esteem Seminars, Hen Wagons, and lets not forget conferences. All of these wonderful events will be happening because of YOUR SUPPORT!

I thank the Creator for you,

Regena English,editor

Can Feminism Handle The Word I?

by Regena English

"I think women as a collective made alot of noise in the seventies to draw attention to our wants but it were the individuals who made the strides. Do I credit the feminist movement for my professional success?No, it was I who made the good grades to attend the best schools to get the good jobs. It was I who made personal sacrifices to move up the ladder, and it was I who took the chance to create my own company. I'm not a feminist because it was I who had to do what was needed for me to be the person I am today."38,Jessie

When a feminist associate of mine read the quote from the article Do We Need Feminism Now? by Rae Lyn Moore she was appalled and angered. The reasons she gave for her anger was, "how could any woman even remotely think she could be so powerful without feminism is beyond any reason."

I was not surprised by her reaction to Jessie's remarks because she and I have had this discussion on numerous occasions. I happen to agree with Jessie. We have the power to create our own realities but for some reason it's not a graspable concept for all women.

It's time women stop downplaying their "inner" power thinking the only power worth recognizing is that from a group of people. You would think with all the self-help books on the market today women would think it was natural for them to feel self-empowered.

Truthfully, many women are stumbling around in their own darkness, they don't see nor realize they are the creators of their todays, tomorrows, and yesterdays.

Women who lack the awareness they can create their own realities are at the mercy of hidden agendas. Why, you ask? No faith in self leaves one open to the destructive suggestions of those wanting to prosper at their expense.

Somewhere within people like Jessie is the thought "I" ,(a singular pronoun), can create on my own. They arrived at this conclusion not to deny any power to feminism, or feminists, but to realize and mature their own personal power. This is what took place with Jessie.

So why do women like Jessie garner so much vindictiveness from women calling themselves feminists? The Jessies of the world can handle anything the world dishes out to them without having to run for cover.

They don't dislike feminism they just understand if they're to have properous, abundant, and joyful lives they they must work on both a physical and spiritual level to create it. It's when they work on themselves spiritually they discover they have at their disposal all the tools necessary to achieve their goals, thus realizing they don't need to depend on other women.

The women's movement may have started out making women aware they were second class citizens motivating them to self empowerment. However, at some point many "liberated" women came to rely solely on the strongarm approach of the movement for career advancement and not their own abilities.

It's very dangerous when people, in this case, women surrender their power to an impersonal organization to do all their thinking and achieving for them. What started out as a forum to encourage free (and higher) thinking among women has become a suffocating box smothering the fires of independent thought.

I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning to sail my ship. ~~Louisa May Alcott~~

Women are not The Borg. Jessie and other women like her understand that it is they who created their lives not a collective of women. Feminism would best be used to promote self awareness rather than promoting political agendas or pushing for more laws.

If women like Jessie can make feminists uncomfortable and angry for choosing to live on their own success steam, then it should be the feminists job to re-examine their mission. It's only natural for Jessie, and those like her, to give praise to themselves for their accomplishments owing just a brief acknowledgement to feminists. Why? It was she who did her planning,focused on her goals, and made any needed sacrifices not the feminists on her behalf.

The time has arrived for humans to rise up and respect their spirits, their inner essence that connects them to the Great Creator. Judging by the reaction from this feminist associate, Jessie is a traitor and should be chastized for being self-empowered. How unfortunate she can't see Jessie is the manifestation of the original vision feminists had for women.

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Spinster Letters

Some Women Article

Regena,
Had it not been for some women in the workplace taking me by the hand I wouldn't be where I am in my profession. I appreciated reading about women working together for each other's success. 48,Constance

I agree with the article one hundred percent. Someone assisted me up the career ladder and now I'm doing the same to someone else.Lourdes

LSN,
I'm glad to see there are women who actually help each other. In my workplace there's only cattiness between the women, the men love it. The men benefit from all the commotion when promotions are abound. They know the company will only promote those who can work as a well oiled machine, employees being petty are hardly that. Hats off to those women who can share their success!40,Ruth

Leather spinsters,
You better believe I entered the workplace agressive and cunning when I was fresh from college twenty years ago. Life has shown me exactly the point of the article, I was my own worst enemy. You can not live a happy and productive life knocking others down for your benefit. History has shown it will all come back to hunt you in the end. Dorothy

Miss English,
BRAVO on Some Women. In many places of employment there's this prevailing notion there's only enough upward movement for a few which creates the backstabbing. Is backstabbing justified,no however, in companies where it is common you can believe it has something to do with that company's promotion policy. Backstabbing is twice as harmful to women trying to have long lasting careers in any given profession than men. Companies expect and can tolerate a cunning man but for women it's another story entirely. Bea

For four years until my retirement as vice president of marketing in a medium sized company in Seattle I had to battle the younger women wanting my position daily. They saw me as a older woman in their way to the top not as somebody who wanted to leave an legacy with another when retired.

My saddest moment was when my employer asked me to recommend an subordinate to take my place and I couldn't think of one female under me who were trusting, capable, or worthy of the responsibilities of the position. Women need to learn to see each other in the workplace as help and not as threats.Paula S. Regena
I wish I had somebody like those women in your article on my way up the career ladder. I played fair from the beginning to present and it was one fight after another with men and women. The men made me work like hell for each and every promotion which I had expected. At times I performed two job descriptions but was paid for one position with no complaints. As if that wasn't enough to bear the women above and below me resented my "gutspah" for enduring the pressure put forth by the men. What can I say, you can't please everybody so please yourself! 38,Rochelle in Kansas City,Mo.

Leather Spinsters Newsletter,
If women just remember the three points of success you mentioned they would be unstoppable in their careers.
1. Purposeful knowing one had something to offer to this world.
2. Feeling confident one was doing their best with life's work.
3. Able to meet or exceed goals, no matter how big or small.
51,Alista




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