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by (c) 2002 By Regena English
Some people would call Janiece a very smart woman, but,
few would say she's living to her full potential, not even
Janiece. Born in a very wealthy family in Dallas she learned
early "the value of money". Through example she learned
to pennypinch and economize "until it hurt" from parents
and grandparents.
Now as a 50 year old self-made businesswoman having
earned millions on her own she's still following the
notion "cling to your money or else it'll leave you". What
she failed to realize was pennypinching represented fear
of lack. All of those desires regardless to their simplicity
or granduer she holds dearly will never be realized due to
her fear of losing her money.
Something else should be mentioned about persons who
refuse to spend money. They tend to have guilt for having
money. A wealthy person feeling guilty for having money?
Yes, most people from poor beginnings can attest to
hearing as children, "save your money for a rainy day",
"money don't grow on trees", "hang on to your money or
it'll flee", and "a penny saved is a penny earned". All
of those saying are screaming "lack" and giving
justification to "money clinging". Fear=Lack, Lack=Fear.
Result: Unrealized Potential
Just as poor people heard those sayings it's quite
possible many wealthy persons with earnest
beginnings were told the same. So when they acquired
their wealth they did so feeling as if they didn't deserve
it because others didn't have the same.
I know so far the topic has been on pennypinchers
but it also applies to jobs and relationships. How
often have you worked in a position inwhich you were
overqualified out of fear of seeking employment that
better suited you? I know of a young woman who held
a position for ten years inwhich she disliked and were
overqualified. Why?
She was fearful she wouldn't be able to find a position
that best suited her ability and education. Fear of starting
anew in another company played a keyrole in keeping her
in a job she hated, cheating her of the quality life she
desired. Fear=Stagnation, Stagnation=Unhappiness
Result: Unrealized Potential
What about the married woman who wore a black eye
every weekend thanks to her abusing husband but
yet endured this for thirty years. Why did she do it?
Fear. Fear that a dirvorce would throw her life into
irreparable chaos. Fear of what he would do to her, and
most of all fear of what her future held for her.
Unknown=Fear, Fear=Misery
Result: Unrealized Potential
The bottomline is, life is not worth living if you can't live
fully realizing your dreams. Fear leads to partial existence,
never knowing for yourself how sweet life could be.
Fear don't have to cheat you of the life you desire to live.
If you feel fear when thoughts of doing something different
surface see it for what it is, fear of change then follow your
desire. Just think how much more exciting and fulfilling life
would be if you were able to sort out unfounded fears
instead of giving into them.
ALWAYS REMEMBER 99.9% OF PERCEIVED FEAR IS
NOT REALITY BASED.
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