Leather Spinsters Newsletter January 2003 Edition

Leather Spinsters Newsletter January 2003 Edition

Inside this Newsletter

1. Newsletter Agenda
2. Articles

    A. Where Will You Be In 2003?
    B. 2003 Resolutions -- Define Your Intent
3. For Your Information

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Things Will Be Different This Year, Right?

Well folks, we made it through another year, time to begin again. Doesn't matter what you did or didn't do last year you've been given an opportunity to recreate your life the way you want it starting today.

For tens of millions of people the month of January is the month of resolutions, by the middle of February more than three quarters of those pledging New Year's Resolutions the month before would have already given up on ever achieving them.

This month the resolutions often made by single women are to lose weight, find "mister right", and be happy. Losing weight may be hard for some but generally speaking it's alot easier to accomplish then finding "mister right" and being happy. Being happy is a state of mind and would require us to give up old but comfortable ways of thinking, the addage, "old habits die hard," comes to mind.

Now before you feel discouraged about my previous statements on finding "mister right" and being happy, think about this. If you're happy any goals you set for yourself are bound to be reached. Where's the logic? Quantum physically speaking, the reason being happy is the key to success in every aspect of your life is due to the focus factor, where ever you place your focus and the mental state generated by that focus you will create attraction. Have a few moments you can dedicate to reading? If so, read A Pocket Full Of Money by David Cameron Gikandi, this informative book clearly explain to the novice how they can master creating the lives they desire. Get this book.

It's a fact I'm not encouraging women to seek out "mister right", no I'm encouraging them to find "miss right", that guilt-free happy to be alive woman, that resides within. Recently I had the pleasure of speaking with a London reporter inwhich I made the statement, "for the new year many single women should make promises to spend 2003 looking inside of themselves for their "miss right" instead of making finding the ultimate husband their resolution." The reporter promptly asked, "why do you not like the idea of women resolving to find husbands"?

I laughed and said," there's nothing wrong with wanting and finding a husband, it's not about hating men or marriage. No, it's about so many single women finding fault with being single as if being single is a state of incompleteness. Marriage is a life option for women but not the only one. Unfortunately there's a mentality rooted deep in this society implying women can't be happy and feel complete any other way but in a state of matrimony. If a woman want a husband she'll have a better chance of attracting the perfect man for her by being able to love herself and choosing to be happy regardless to circumstances".

Just a little sidenote, are you wondering why I used the word "promise" when referring to women looking inside for miss right and "resolution" for finding the husband? Lets look at the meaning of these two words:

  • promise - a declaration or assurance that something specified will or will not happen.

  • resolution - a formal expression of opinion or intention.

  • As you can see those two words don't share the same meaning, one is a firm commitment while the other is just a stated intention. This would explain why women find themselves making the same resolutions year after year, there's no firm commitment.

    In this issue of the newsletter you will find ways for you to empower yourself to be the creator of your destiny, not just for this year but in years to come. Decide on which direction you want your life to take, make plans on achieving them, then find ways to hold true to your plans. I pray that 2003 is one filled with new leases on life, happiness, prosperity, contentment, and abundance for you. Now see someone is rooting for you, I only hope you take action and live your life to its fullest!

    Regena English

    Where Will You Be In 2003?

    As we get closer to the end of the year, we begin to take stock of our lives. The new year brings with it the promise of a clean slate and we make resolutions for something better, something brighter and something more than we accomplished in the past year.

    So, one year from now, in December 2003, where will you be?

    Will you be working at something that you are so passionate about that it (almost) feels wrong to get paid for it? Will you be enjoying the loving support of a partner or spouse? Will you have taken time to give back something in honor of the gifts which you have received? Will you be living your one and only life with fearless joy?

    There's nothing wrong with resolutions to lose weight or exercise more or quit smoking. Unfortunately, they aren't very easy to keep and we could probably recycle last year's resolutions and just change the date!

    The answer may lie in resolving to create a life of purpose. By having a mission statement for the way you want to live, you will find it much easier to let go of the things that will not serve you in your new life. And to add the things that will enhance you.

    After working on my life purpose, I've determined that my path is to live a life of creative exploration, joyful service and exuberant self-expression. This is the benchmark for what fits into my life and what I choose to give attention to. For example, when I'm overwhelmed with requests for my time or resources, I ask myself, "Can I do this in a spirit of joyful service?" If I'm feeling a sense of guilt or pressure, then I politely decline. I simply find the project that does bring me joy.

    If your life purpose includes honoring yourself and others, bad habits are not going to fit in with that. This will be your higher reason for changing your habits. It's still not going to be easy, but when you see it in the context of something larger, it gives you the leverage you need to stay the course.

    (c) Merlyn Sanchez offers personal and business coaching to people who are ready to live their ideal lives! Visit her on the web atwww.yourideallife.com, email Yourideallife@aol.com, to subscribe to her ezine "Your Ideal Life".

    2003 Resolutions -- Define Your Intent

    Several articles and newsletters with the message that New Year's resolutions are a worthless exercise and a poorly disguised setup for failure have passed across my desk this last week.

    I do not believe in failure! There is always something good to be found in any learning experience. Besides, if we always succeeded at everything we did, we would not know we succeeded because there would be nothing to measure success against! (But that is not today's topic!)

    Certainly, the normal statements along the lines of losing weight, quitting smoking, etc. are normally an invitation to be unsuccessful. The reason being that if you could not find the power before to achieve this, what would be different about now?

    However, here are some ideas for you to consider that could possibly have a huge impact on your life this coming year.

    1. Define your Self. Who are you? What do you stand for? What are the values that make you whole? Begin this task immediately and put it in writing. Refer to it often. Refine it continually as you discover things about your Self you did not know. Start with the following premise, which many of us have. You are not your work, your family or anything else external. You are internal. You are you.

    2. What is your dream for the future? This is your intent. If it remains undefined and unrecognized, it will most likely never be created into reality. The reason for this is that you have to create your own reality. If you do not begin with this first step of intent to create, nothing can happen. Everything that ever is, was first a thought; then spoken, then acted upon. Of course this concept is much easier said than done. May I suggest that you not concern yourself with the HOW and only concern yourself with the intent? The HOW is not really in your power at this time. You need help with that.

    3. Live your life as if each minute were your last. This has been said so many times that we normally brush the thought aside. Why do we do this? It is a crucial part of happiness and joy. We have a tremendous power within us to change our world. I believe strongly that we create our own world by making each choice that is offered to us every second of the day. That is the ONLY power we have; but it is an incredible power! When we decide to consciously choose to make each and every decision, then we are creating our world on a minute-by-minute basis. Making our choices becomes easier! Simply follow the guidelines as you defined who you are in step 1!

    4. Let it go. We have no power over the future! You can worry, fret, get ulcers, scream, shout, and go down kicking, but you will not alter the future one bit and more importantly, while you are making that fuss about the future, you might miss making a couple of crucial, conscious choices in the here and now that allow you to create your future!

    Miami Phillips is an ANSIR certified personal coach and author of "Weekly Wisdom." Visit his site to find out more www.creativeminds.com or send an email to him at coach@creativemasterminds.com

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    Stressed?Do You Need To Re-Connect to Your Spirit?

    The Watching Meditation as taught by Bill Donahue is as follows.
  • Close your eyes

  • Hold your breath for three seconds
  • Recite either out loud or inwardly, "I'm watching myself"
  • "Walk away", give that meditation session no further thought
  • That's it in a nutshell. Do this meditation as often as you are comfortable. This exercise which lasts four to six seconds is an exercise in developing a relationship with your "spirit-self/God/Creator/or whatever name you call it". The purpose is to not make anything happen or to attach emotional feelings to this exercise. In doing this we separate from thought for a few seconds and each time we do its like pulling another weed (any thought not condusive to peace and tranquility) out of the garden of Eden (your mind).
      " I actually like to set aside a half hour (for the Watching Meditation) but in our every day activities where we find ourselves under so much stress and need to be here and there, this simple exercise allows us to consistently stay in touch. Remember as Jesus says, what comes to us comes as lightning from the east to the west, in the twinkling of an eye. One second is all that it takes for the angle of light from above to enter and start rebuilding that temple inside of you. It has nothing to do with your physical body or with your desires. It simply is opening ourselves up to the power of the supreme light and that happens in an instant." Bill Donahue www.hiddenmeanings.com


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    Although that web page will give you some sense of our goals, I would like to tell you about them directly. We hope to accomplish two things with these questionnaires. The first goal is to better characterize what it means to be asexual. For instance, asexuals may define what it means to be sexual differently from non-asexuals. Very little research has been done on this topic, so this project has the potential to increase discussion about what an asexual identity means. The second goal is simply to better understand what might be a reasonable distinction between the terms .sexual arousal. and .sexual desire.. While the answer may seem clear at first, this is currently a hotly debated topic in sexuality research.

    Our questionnaires are presented on a secure server and do not require participants to identify themselves. In return for participating, respondents may enjoy viewing the survey results, which we update, and have the opportunity to enter a drawing for 3 $50 cash awards if they wish.

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