Leather Spinsters Newsletter January 2004 Edition

Leather Spinsters Newsletter January 2004 Edition

Inside this Newsletter

1. Articles

    A. Success By Association (SBA)
    B. 7Ways To Make 2004 Your Happiest Year Ever!
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"Happiness is a choice not a given." Regena English


Success By Association (SBA)

This year instead of the usual resolutions, mind you they are the same resolutions you make each year, let this year be different. This year as one of your resolutions limit your exposure to individuals who validate the "old you," the you you're not happy being. To gain confidence, lose weight, learn to drive a car, get new skills for another career, whatever the goals be sure and have like-minded support.

For the record, there are people who have no problems whatsoever in reaching their goals without a support system, are you one of them? If not, keep reading.

Now I know what you're thinking, how can limiting my time with certain people help me? Human beings tend to surround themselves with those who reflect them (like it or not) in some manner. To effectively and permanently change habits and attitudes you must limit exposure to those who reinforces the "old you," those who encourage you to stay in your comfort zone. More specifically, I'm saying to you to consciously choose to be around those persons that possess the qualities (characteristics) you desire for yourself and allow them to positively influence your life. This is called Success By Association (orSBA).

If you want this year to not be like the others, of unrealized goals, you must ask what will you do differently this year to change your situation and reach the goals you set for yourself? Now I'm asking you to use your honest eyes to see if they, meaning your companions and acquaintances, are they helping you towards your goals or away from them?

Please don't misunderstand, I'm not instructing you to drop old friends. No, what I'm saying is establish and utilize support for your success.

Lets say you want to become an eloquent public speaker, spending all of your time with foul mouth complainers will never get you to your goals of becoming a speaker. One way of reaching your dream of being a speaker would be to join an organization like Toastmasters which is composed of, people who are and those who desire to be, eloquent speakers. Another way of increasing your exposure would be to enroll in speaking classes. Both suggestions on becoming a speaker are great ways of befriending others who can assist you in achieving your speaking goals. This is SUCCESS BY ASSOCIATION.

Always ask yourself this question when making life changes, do I have a support system for or against my desired outcome?

2003 Copyright Regena English All Rights Reserved
the editor of The Leather Spinsters Newsletter for happily unmarried careerwomen,http://www.leatherspinsters.com *********************

***Editor's Note***
This is a new year and another opportunity to become the person you desire to be!!

7 Ways To Make 2004 Your Happiest Year Ever!

1. Starve a bad habit; feed a good habit. Things that you nurture, and support, and give energy and time to will grow in your life. And in contrast, things can't exist if you don't support them. If you have something in your life that you don't want there, identify how you are supporting it.

2. Give up all hope of ever having a better past. You can't change it. But you CAN create a better future. If you get up every morning unhappy about what happened 20 years ago, or yesterday, you give it power over you. Decide that the past will not rule your present.

3. Do it anyway. You don't have to feel like doing it (exercise, cutting spending, asking for help, saying no) to do it. Make a plan, then do what needs to be done.

4. Ask for what you want. Nobody ever gets more than they asks for. If you ask for very little love, support, opportunity, courage, interest, etc, that's exactly what you'll get. Decide what's important to you, and be willing to ask, try, work, experiment, until you get it.

5. Take small steps. It's easy to get overwhelmed and do nothing. Instead of focusing on the ultimate goal, focus on what you can do "just for today" to move in a new direction. For example, if financial stability is your goal, decide that "just for today" you won't create any new debt.

6. Do something different. If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten. Change your routine, add a good habit. Start small, then build on it. Put $10 in an envelope each week; get up off the couch and walk in place during commercials; clean out a drawer every Saturday.

7. Learn something new. Expand your horizons. If you're not willing to learn something new, you'll stay stuck where you are. It's very hard to ask for something when you don't even know it's available. Surprise yourself.
ŠProfessional Life Coach Kathy Gates helps people who are burned out, stressed out, and fed up to get back to basics. Sign up for weekly How-To Clinics and a free ezine at www.reallifecoach.com or call for a free consultation at (480)998-5843.

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