Written by Regena English and Rebeccah Jeremiah, |
Author of The High Road or The Low One: It's Your Damn Choice!
I had entered into a casual conversation with a woman by the name of Rebeccah Jeremiah while waiting to tour a gym. We sat watching the gym's television making small talk on different topics until a news update ran across the screen. The reporter said children today have more rolemodels than kids of yesteryear. I can remember thinking, "yeah but what types of rolemodels do they have?" Miss Jeremiah appeared to be just as perplexed by the reporter's comment as myself so I asked her opinion on the matter. As a single parent she had alot to say on the subject of rolemodels, below is her message to fellow single parents.
Recently a stadium was proposed by the city council, and to justify the necessity of building another stadium in the community the council said it would be another source giving access to positive rolemodels. It's the assumption of the council members the sporting events and concerts held at this proposed facility would give kids the positive outlet they need to become productive adults.
Now, do you think an athlete or entertainer would make a positive rolemodel for your children?
If you're one of the many parents who think Dennis Rodman, Madonna, Whitney Houston, or The Backstreet Boys would make perfect rolemodels for your kids, you better think again. No I don't know these people personally nor do I give much credence to the gossip peddled on television shows and magazine covers regarding them. The bible nails the point exactly, "raise your child in the way they are to go."
Have a problem with the bible? Well what can I say, but as a parent you can't argue with the fact you're responsible for the instillation of morals and spiritual guidance of your children. How can you entrust this responsibility to someone you don't know just because they have a good public persona?
I had the priviledge of speaking with a publicist 's assistant for a well-known singer a couple of years ago, and according to this person, their client is just as wild in life as in her videos and shows. If that's true, then this woman have some serious issues in her life I would rather children not use as the norm. Do you really want this woman as a rolemodel for your children? Gee, I hope not!
Many parents hate to face the truth they are their youngsters rolemodels, the examples of how people are to behave, forgive, love, survive, and prosper while getting along with others that share this planet. What happens when children only have strangers to look to for emotional and spiritual guidance? First of all, they will hate you, the parent, and not know why. Secondly, they will enter into adulthood confused and misguided looking for something to fill the void, never able to put into words what it is they're seeking from life.
Having lived confused and misguided for most of my life I can say it's a miserable state to be in. If you love your children you would provide them with an environment of honesty, trust, love, compassion, discipline, and a spiritual belief system. Before you can give your children these things you must first possess them, then act them out in everyday affairs. If you don't make the sacrifice for them who will, the athletes and singers of the world?
Most of us genuinely love our kids and want to see them do well in life so we make a point to scrutinize what they see and hear. Eliminating as many negative influences as possible is a must, this means explaining to them why certain persons (athletes ,entertainers, and or others) aren't good people to follow. BE THE CENTER OF YOUR CHILDREN'S LIVES AND WATCH THEM BLOSSOM