I have a problem with the usage of the term leather spinster.
How could you use such a word to describe us, it’s disgusting
and should not be used. You should know better being a child of
the South, you know very well about the negatives associated
with that word. Can there be another word used instead of
spinster and that damn modern term leather spinster? One of
your issues used the term steel magnolias, why not call us that?
Katy McBride 62
One of the purposes of this newsletter was to give
women who were not gay and were happily unmarried
a method of communicating openly with one another.
No offense was meant by the inclusion of asexual
women. Lets face it we’re all in the same boat as far as
our society is concerned. Undesired, frigid, gay,
men-haters, misfits, and lets not forget neurotics, take
your pick of the words used to describe happily
spinstered women.
When I started this newsletter I was aware of the
possible misinterpretation of the title due mainly to my
writing of a book on the subject. Many of my over 50
interview subjects warned me about their peers not
understanding educated women calling themselves
spinsters. I can understand why those women had a
problem with the term “spinster” because there was a
time inwhich a woman were punished with that word.
Young women today understand the power of words
which is why they openly call themselves spinsters or
leather spinsters. Those words don’t have the burn for
them as it may had for our older sisters, no disrespect
is intended but this is a publication that see nothing
wrong with being an unmarried woman or using the
term spinster loosely. We, as individuals give words
their power to excite or depress not the words
themselves so as an individual you should find a word
or words that accurately describe you and your
lifestyle.
Lets not forget the age question. A woman can be a
leather spinster at any age. I made reference to women
between the ages of 30-55 because they tend to be
more liberal thinking in regards to the term spinster as
compared to their older counterparts. If you see
yourself as a leather spinster and that term don’t
bother you then you’re a leather spinster. Only you
have the right to define yourself, to permit others to
do so can be careless and dangerous.
Ladies please know there’s no love loss because you
have opinions different than my own or maybe some
of the other readers, your opinions are valued and
appreciated here for they widen the “BIG PICTURE”
called reality.
Oh before I leave this subject I must clarify this
newsletter is not anti-lesbian. I mentioned above and
in previous articles how spinsters were frequently
referred to as gay in this culture. I said that so others
would know there’s a difference between the two
groups. I’m sure there are lesbians who refer to
themselves as spinsters and there’s nothing wrong
with that, but, unlike our gay counterparts leather
spinsters don’t have many forums dedicated to their
concerns. As a leather spinster I felt the need to reach out to others like myself. The Leather
Spinsters Newsletter was the most effective but
unintrusive manner inwhich I could communicate
with leather spinsters without the criticism of others in
our society regarding our chosen lifestyle.
The footsteps of those proud spinsters that have gone before and those that are soon to follow.
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In this issue I would like to address the terms leather spinster and asexuality. Recently two senior ladies wrote me notes expressing their concerns with the terms and the negative impact they have on single women:
Hi! Checked out your website after reading an article in the
Houston Chronicle. A couple of comments and questions. The
article said that part of your definition of a Leather Spinster is
an upper age cutoff of 55. If accurate, why? I am 57 and
counting, never married, heterosexual, not in a relationship,
and as content as most people I know. And why choose the term
"asexual"? If you are describing what is a valid, but previously
unrecognized, lifestyle choice, then you need to coin a new
term...one without the negative overtones of "asexual." My
medical dictionary (I am a freelance medical writer) defines
asexual as "1) having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless. 2)
Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs
without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary
fission or budding. 3) Lacking interest in or desire for sex." Is
this really the best description of a Leather Spinster? You can
argue that this is not your intent in using the term. However,
since this IS the meaning of the term, you need to find one that
is accurately descriptive. If this is the meaning you intended,
maybe the age limit doesn't matter...I wouldn't qualify as a
Leather Spinster on the grounds of not being asexual...Mary
Carole McMann
I thought a public acknowledgment of their concerns
were in order with the hopes of answering questions
others may have concerning the terms mentioned
above. The term asexual or asexuality as it’s being used in this forum refers to a woman not interested or
desirous of romantic and or sexual contact. I’m in no
way defining all the readers of this publication as
asexuals. The truth is majority of our readership
identify as heterosexuals, be they sexually active or
celibate they identify as straight.
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