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By Russ Stiffler
You are the most important person in your life. As the story
of your life unfolds, you are the screenwriter, as well as
the producer and director. You have complete control over the
movie of your life.
How the story of your life turns out is dependent largely on
how you feel about yourself. If you feel like Mr. or Mrs.
Studley, you write the script of your life as an adventure.
You invent obstacles that become challenges that are fun to
overcome.
As the victor, you get the spoils. You're the hero and as
the movie fades out to "The End" you've gotten the girl/guy, the
glory and the money. It all seems so easy when you are
wearing the white hat.
If, however, you think of yourself as the wimp, you write
your story as a tragedy. The obstacles beat you down. Everything
goes wrong, no matter how hard you try. Even a major triumph
like winning the lottery goes bad as you lose all the money
and end up deeper in debt.
The story fades into a black empty screen, just like your
life's story. Nothingness. Everyone walks out of the theater
sadly shaking their heads, thinking what a shame. What a
tragedy and what a waste of a life.
The only real difference in these two stories is the point
of view of the author. Fun adventure or dreaded tragedy. When
you really get down to it, that is what determines most results
in life. The point of view of the author.
As the author of your life, your point of view of yourself
will write your life's story. All the things that you tell
yourself you are end up being true. All the stories you use to
describe yourself end up being true. All the ways you talk about
yourself end up being true.
All these things together determine your level of self-
esteem. The more positive your self-esteem, the more comfortable
you are with yourself. The more comfortable you are with yourself,
the more likely you are to write your life as an adventure to be
lived on your terms.
If you noticed at the beginning of this article I said that
as writer, producer and director you have complete control over
your life's story. In writing fiction that is true, but in
real life that is not entirely true.
You have little control over many situations that confront
you. You didn't consciously pick your parents, for instance. You
didn't ask for the teacher you had a personality conflict with.
And you certainly did not hope you would get cancer.
However, how you feel about yourself determines how you
react to and view whatever outside forces you confront. Your self-
esteem is largely up to you. Your self-esteem is developed mostly
from your thoughts and you have control of your thoughts. At
least how you react to them.
If you would like to take more control over your life and
build a stronger self-esteem, start by taking control of how you
talk about yourself. Start directing your life from a positive point
of view. Catch yourself doing positive things, and pat yourself on
the back. Direct your life as an adventure.
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