Make Room For Happiness

Make Room For Happiness
by (c) 2002 By Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach

Close your eyes and visualize this. Ok, bad idea...since you can't read with your eyes closed). So instead, just clear your thoughts for a minute and get this picture in your head.

I've been painting my den. All the furniture is crowded together in the middle of the room. I expertly (yeah right) organized the space where we could get to the couch to watch TV...except of course anything we need, which is always seems to be clear across the room. It's jumbled, and crowded, and out of sync. Nothing's easy, nothings within in reach, and I spend way more time doing simple things than I normally would.

Sound familiar? That's a very accurate description of life for many people. A crowded up, jumbled up, not- in-sync quadrant of time and space.

Not a pretty picture. Now imagine that you wanted to ADD something to that space. Maybe you really really wanted a new couch, or new TV, or even just a new rug. It would only crowd things that much more. It would only make you more uncomfortable, and out of sync.

As a Life Coach, people come to me every day wanting to ADD something to their lives...starting a new business, finding a relationship, writing a book. But their lives are like my den...crowded and unfunctionable. Adding something would only make them more uncomfortable than they already are.

If you want something new and different in your life, you must first make ROOM. Make room for happiness by moving OUT the old.

Where do you start to begin to make room for happiness?

1. Time. How do you spend your time? Is it wasted time, or refreshing time? Are you consciously spending time, or just letting it happen?

2. Environment. What no longer is working for you in your environment? Are there unfinished projects that were important at one time, but no longer intrigue you? When you look around, does your environment make you feel good?

3. Relationships. What relationships are no longer effective to your happiness? Do the people in your life support you? Are you are proud to introduce them to others?

4. Thinking. Do you talk to yourself like your best friend? Or do you talk to yourself like someone who you despise? Pay attention to how you treat your mind.

5. Work. Do you feel fulfilled and happy about your work? Or do you dread going to work, and just count the minutes until Fridays?

Once you have made the ROOM for happiness, adding what you really want will give you pleasure and fulfillment. If you try to add it on top of what you already have, it will become just another source of aggravation. First, you must set up your life to support success.

Just as in my den, as I begin to rearrange the sofa and chairs, the rest of the room became easier and easier. So it will be with your you change one part, each will be easier and easier.

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Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach, can help you restructure your life so that it's easier, more fun, and a more genuine expression of who you are. She is the author of an Ebook and several Email Coaching Programs available at, call 480.998.5843